Moving on with your life...

Ok, so it's been a month or so since the break up, your world is not looking as bleak as it was and the pain is down to a dull, numb feeling in the pit of your stomach.

You've been told that it is now time to move forward, life is going on around you and it's time to get up off the couch and go out.

This has to be one of the hardest things to do, to put on some nice clothes, do your make up and hair and head out on the town with the girls. I remember when my partner of 3 years left me and I did this, I ended up running into him, out on the town with his mates... it sent me into a tail spin all over again!

So, how do you get back on that horse? Just how do you pick yourself up after the love of your life has ripped your heart out and stomped all over it?!

Here are a few of the things I did that helped me, I hope that they will help you:

1. Enrol in a personal development course. This is by far the best thing I have ever done for me. It came at a time in my life where I was at my lowest and it helped me to realise that I don't "need" anyone to be happy, that I am responsible for that. It helped me be more aware of the way I reacted to situations and the emotions I felt and the underlying feelings under those emotions... it was an eye-opener and one I was very grateful for. So, if there is any one thing I could recommend, it is this.
   
   
2. Keep yourself busy. Put your focus into something else. Start a new project, anything to keep you occupied so that you hardly have any time to think, let alone wallow in self pity.
   
   
3. Surround yourself with the people that love you. You don't need any negative people around you, so go to those that support you and think about you.
   
   
4. Book yourself on a holiday, go somewhere different. Enjoy your life.
   
   
5. Go on your OE or move somewhere new, or change your job. I found change to help me, it changed my focus to something else.

Bottomline, dealing with a break up is never easy, so take care of you. I remember when "the one" broke up with me, my weight plummeted and I looked sick and unhealthy, don't do this to yourself, in the end, this person is not worth your love.

Hugs, Mrs Handsome